Rules to Learn . . . and Bend

The Average Joe
(Photo credit: Marshall Matlock)

Like I’ve said before, since I’m new to the study of men’s clothing, it’s worth learning the classics, first and foremost.  Literature has the Greeks, Karate has paint the fence, and men’s dress has Alan Flusser.

Of Mr. Flusser’s work, nothing seems more essential than Dressing the Man: Mastering the Art of Permanent Fashion.

“Permanent fashion?”  Like many, I thought perhaps his definition of both terms differed from mine, because a man who penned a definitive guide to clothing wouldn’t make such a mistake as calling fashion permanent.  But don’t worry, he dives into this curious subtitle 14 pages in.

Handmade in London

What’s something you use that is so well-disguised in it’s indispensability that the second you perceive it, becomes impossible to ignore?

Something like, say, breathing.

Pumping columns of air into  diaphragm and out through nostrils in tiny flares.

into, out though . . . into, out though . . . into, out though.

If I’ve made you aware of your own breathing, I sincerely apologize for the inconvenience.  But since you’re attention is already on it, go ahead and just take a deep breath.  Pull a mighty draft in.  Let your chest bellow with volume.  Make it audible.  Make it count.  To five.

In.                                                                                   Out.

It’s rich, isn’t it?  We cycle a whole day in reflexive, measured respiration.  But oh, what a feeling to take a deep breath.  It’s different.  It’s more.  It makes you notice how valuable this habit really is.

Everyone’s wheelhouse of routine contains something akin to a deep breath.  The hefty sheet of parchment for the rare handwritten letter.  The good china for  your parents’ dinner visit.  The Swingline from your paralegal days whenever the office stapler is being extra useless.

In my case, a fine necktie.

Stevie knows.

The world of doing something completely new and is a scary one, isn’t it?  Doubt creeping over your shoulder.  Insecurity tightening around your neck.  Failure gnawing at your heel.  So leave it to the King of horror to comfort.

Young Stephen King
Photo credit: The Awl

At nineteen they can card you in the bars and and tell you to get the fuck out, put your sorry act (and sorrier ass) back on the street, but they can’t card you when you sit down and paint a picture, write a poem, tell a story, by God, and if you reading this happen to be very young, don’t let your elders and supposed leaders tel you any different.  Sure, you’ve never been to Paris.  No, you never ran with the bulls at Pamplona.  Yes, you’re a pissant who had no hair in your armpits until three years ago–but so what?  If you don’t start out to big for your britches, how are you gonna fill ’em when you grow up?  Let it rip regardless of what anybody tells you, that’s my idea; sit down and smoke that baby.

To those — nineteen or not — who are smoking.

A Year of Reading Better.

“If you don’t have time to read, you don’t have time to write.  Simple as that.” – Stephen King

I’m a terrible reader.  With a current average of 1.5 novels per year, I am certain I qualify in the bottom 5% worst-read individuals with a B.A. in Literature.

The above quotation by Mr. King really stuck in my side when I came across it last summer, and since the new year turned up, my side’s been aching a bit more than usual.  In this quest to write something worth my time and your visits, it’s time I became a better reader.

Always a bit on the eager side of adventuring, I’ve began my new year of better reading with two books to fill separate inspirations:

Dressing the Man: Mastering the Art of Permanent Fashion

Dressing the Man

Why Good Shoes Matter

Middle school was a bad time to prove one’s cool. Drawers of Top Dawg T-shirts. Depp No. 5 to replicate Vegeta’s ‘do. And bikes. The most devil-may-care rolled into the parking lot, coveted logos flashing in chrome frame: GT, Diamondback, Haro. I wanted that flash.

My dad — a man who values bargains so much that he tried convincing a merchant that he, too, was Korean — pleaded with me that my five-year old Huffy was just as good if we painted it navy and slap some stickers on it. Turns out, the paint couldn’t unwear the rust from years of learning, and I had outgrown the bike anyway. The bike we painted and polished never saw a foot of that parking lot. I remained uncool through eighth grade.

Value has been one of the challenging skills in establishing a permanent style. Whether it’s a wristwatch or trousers, I want something I’ll want to wear now through old age. I want to care for it, let it share its age gracefully, and carry on a story, of which my wear added a chapter. But I’ve found it’s such a minefield out there. Can I really justify dropping five thousand dollars on a handmade Neapolitan suit? I can make a case to my wife, but unless my teaching salary tripled, I’d have a better shot re-piercing my lip.

Sometimes I regret that I’ve fallen for the world of suits. I can’t un-see the cheap sheen of synthetic cloth in department stores. I seek the priceless imperfections of hand-sewn details here and there. Well, realistically, there’s always a price, for the beautiful land of menswear is unfortunately a land of luxury. The best I can do is use practicality as a compass. Save up for a $1400 off-the-rack three-piece once a year, perhaps. Then there’s always another trick: suck it up and go for “good enough.”

Uniqlo navy blazer